All in forgiveness

5 Ways to Abuse Proof Your Marriage

Ponder this:  To a God who sees lust as adultery, and hatred as murder (Matthew 5:21-30), how do you believe He sees evil words and angry outbursts?  I believe that God sees emotional abuse no less a sin than physical abuse.  Both expose an ugly side of our heart – the side that is rebellious and must have its own way at all cost.  Whenever we hold ourselves in higher regard than our spouse, we sin!

Making Peace with the In-Laws

I feel this is a valuable and timely topic as we approach the holidays.  Why?  It is a rare day that I meet a young married couple who feel like they had the in-law’s blessing from the beginning of their courtship.  Often, and when exploring this further, one or both get very emotional.  Everyone wants to be known and loved by those in their family.  It is important deep down in our being.

Repent and Forgive

We must lay aside our pride, acknowledge our hurt and let our spouse know when our feelings have been injured.  I can’t stress how important the act of humbling yourself is to the health of your marriage!  This will take a soul-bearing conversation where you may have to admit to your spouse that you are not as secure as you’d like to think you are or that you portray.  It will require you to be vulnerable. 

The Ugly Year!

As I think back to those months, I wish I had had someone to explain to me the hurt I inflicted on my spouse.  But I had no one, and frankly, no one probably ever knew the struggle going on between Jody and I – it was truly a private war and fought by two exhausted soldiers!  My independent behavior told Jody, my battle buddy and soul mate, that I didn't need him, and that I could not be trusted in the midst of the battle.  Jody’s anger toward me told me that his love for me was conditional. 

Shark!

At that moment, the chicken side of me won, and I began to scream and splash about, and in general, pitch a panic!  Jody came up from snorkeling alarmed by my screaming and assumed the worse - SHARK!  He scrambled towards me.  I was attempting to get up the boat ladder, but my legs wouldn't make it happen.  I was paralyzed by fear!  The fish, combined with my own screaming, had convinced me I was soon to die!

the Grudge Game

I am a college football fan and more importantly an LSU fan.  If you know me, you already know this about me.  It is an oddity, I’m sure.  But I love football.  I love the game, the strategy, the play calling, the God given talent on display in those young athletes on the field and those purple and gold tigers! If I had been born a bit more coordinated, muscular or male, I’d have played football- quarterback for sure!  

Lets have a fair fight

Right before Sylvester Stalone starts landing blows on his opponent in each of the famous Rocky movies, a referee reminds him of the rules.  The two menacing boxers stand toe to toe- drenched in sweat, boxing gloves on.  The referee pulls down a microphone from the sky and starts explaining the rules.  “We want a good clean fight, no sucker punches or blows below the waist, touch gloves, and when I say go to your corner, go there and stay there, and don’t come out until you hear the bell. May the best fighter win!”   I have often thought that this referee would make a great wedding officiant.  He could wed people and start them off on the right foot on how to fight fairly.