All in commuication

5 Ways to Abuse Proof Your Marriage

Ponder this:  To a God who sees lust as adultery, and hatred as murder (Matthew 5:21-30), how do you believe He sees evil words and angry outbursts?  I believe that God sees emotional abuse no less a sin than physical abuse.  Both expose an ugly side of our heart – the side that is rebellious and must have its own way at all cost.  Whenever we hold ourselves in higher regard than our spouse, we sin!

Feeling Neglected

We neglect our spouses.  Then wonder what happened when we find ourselves in the ditch. For example, if I pursue work as my priority for a few weeks, months, years and then want to have an intimate conversation with my long-suffering spouse, I will find both of us unable to do the heavy lifting. There is truth in the proverb- use it or lose it. 

Communication is the Key!

I'm good at my job.  So by all accounts, I am a communication specialist.  So I'm sure it came as a big surprise to my sweet husband that when we first married, I was really bad at communicating with him.  Considering this early time in our marriage, you could compare Jody’s situation with someone who had just married a graduate from the Culinary Institute of America only to find out their new spouse couldn’t cook at home – their spouse could make delicious meals for strangers, but could hardly boil water in their own kitchen.  You would want your money back, right?!

Shark!

At that moment, the chicken side of me won, and I began to scream and splash about, and in general, pitch a panic!  Jody came up from snorkeling alarmed by my screaming and assumed the worse - SHARK!  He scrambled towards me.  I was attempting to get up the boat ladder, but my legs wouldn't make it happen.  I was paralyzed by fear!  The fish, combined with my own screaming, had convinced me I was soon to die!

Lets have a fair fight

Right before Sylvester Stalone starts landing blows on his opponent in each of the famous Rocky movies, a referee reminds him of the rules.  The two menacing boxers stand toe to toe- drenched in sweat, boxing gloves on.  The referee pulls down a microphone from the sky and starts explaining the rules.  “We want a good clean fight, no sucker punches or blows below the waist, touch gloves, and when I say go to your corner, go there and stay there, and don’t come out until you hear the bell. May the best fighter win!”   I have often thought that this referee would make a great wedding officiant.  He could wed people and start them off on the right foot on how to fight fairly.