All tagged marriage can be tough
Sometimes the honeymoon period doesn’t last very long and the truth that marriage is work comes rushing in. Marriage is hard work, but worth every moment if you view your marriage as a chance to make you more holy in the sight of God and not merely happy! IF you do this- happiness will follow, I promise!
Marriage is tough. It takes more than love and respect, a 10 step program, learning how to negotiate or speaking each others love language. Ultimately it requires us to make a choice to not be offended. It requires letting go of trying to be right and pursuing God and His righteousness. Keep reading, friend!
I am feeling very nostalgic, probably because it is the season. It is the time of the year that we look back and give thanks for all that God has done in our lives. And this is exactly what I have found myself doing. I've been looking at old pictures of Jody and I, our life together, our three beautiful children, and past holidays spent with family and friends. My conclusion is that God has richly blessed my family! I know this from my 2017 vantage point, but I didn't always know this to be true. I wish there was a way I could go back and encourage my younger self in the faith!
As I think back to those months, I wish I had had someone to explain to me the hurt I inflicted on my spouse. But I had no one, and frankly, no one probably ever knew the struggle going on between Jody and I – it was truly a private war and fought by two exhausted soldiers! My independent behavior told Jody, my battle buddy and soul mate, that I didn't need him, and that I could not be trusted in the midst of the battle. Jody’s anger toward me told me that his love for me was conditional.